“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.” -Brian Tracy
It has been quite awhile since my last post. I have been allowing myself the time to step back from modern day technology and distractions that I so easily find myself being drawn to in moments of restlessness. Instead I have been accepting and paying attention to the gifts and lessons life has been offering me.
These past three weeks have been a time of rest, healing, introspection, growth and self reflection. Observing my patterns, connecting the dots, meeting my emotions with love. This, as I am sure you can imagine was not the easiest task. It was however beyond healing, and greatly rewarding. After this exercise (and I am sure there will be plenty more to come) I am still far from perfect.
What I stepped away with was more clarity and insightfulness. More patience for myself and others, which is something that has taken me a lifetime so far to truly begin to cultivate and nurture. Most likely a lifetime more to really put into practice.
What is patience? I will begin with the dictionary’s definition. “Patience: the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, difficulty, or annoyance without getting angry or upset.” I do not know anyone in my life who is free of these. In fact, I can’t even recall a single day in my own life when at least one of them didn’t make an unwelcome appearance.
Most of my life, my reaction to the presence of any one of these was to react, to feel frustrated…or at least be upset, and flustered in one way or another. I have recently realized that this response is only serving to make an already stressful and unpleasant situation worse. So I have started making a conscious effort to respond to “delay, difficulty, or annoyance” differently. Sometimes it is all I can do to tolerate their presence. But I am keeping at it. With positivity and practice, I am becoming better at accepting them with an open heart as they are an inevitable part of life.
By gifting myself the time to process, meditate, and honor my own needs it has become obvious that patience is more than just a virtue. Patience keeps us grounded in the present moment and resonates with the Divine Consciousness.
Impatience comes from the mind, while patience comes from the heart. Patience is giving time for your heart to act, which is the basis for real spiritual development.
Rushing and impatience only makes us slaves to our own negative emotions, such as jealousy, anger, envy, insecurity, disappointment, pride, frustration and so on. As a result we ultimately project these emotions outwards, and typically at those who we love.
Patience quiets the mind which aids in cultivating the positive emotions of love, compassion, and empathy. By living in a state of patience, we are living in a state of being present. The two go hand in hand.
Patience is a quality that is the basis for ALL spiritual realization. It moves us from living in ego and fear, to being able surrender and trust in the process. It allows us to welcome everything that comes our way with insight from the heart.
We can transform impatience into patience. It is more than worth the effort because being patient is a way of gifting ourselves compassion, which as a result also helps us calmly accept things as they are…which always feels good.
“Patience is not sitting and waiting, it is foreseeing. It is looking at the thorn and seeing the rose, looking at the night and seeing the day. Lovers are patient and know the moon needs time to become full.” -Rumi
With so much love,